Stories are powerful. I see the evidence for their power frequently in my hypnosis practice. Often when I can help a client uncover a story about why they have a particular (generally unhelpful) thought pattern, they are then able to let go of a way of thinking and behaving and move on to more hopeful, healthy and happy life chapters.
This story is extremely personal because it is about me and my romantic partners. I am a very sensitive and loving person, and having a loving partner at my side is something I truly value. I want to tell you about the discovery of an explanation of a new story that is extremely healing to demonstrate just how powerful stories are for personal healing.
I have been blessed with two wonderful romantic life partners in my life. I married my husband Bruce in 2000, and in 2001 he received a live-saving lung transplant. We had a happy marriage, including being blessed with a son in 2003. Unfortunately, Bruce suffered a major lung infection and serious stroke in 2007. He only recovered a fraction of his previous abilities, and lived in care facilities for several years after the stroke. Bruce died in April 2011.
Then, in 2015 I met a wonderful man named Scott. We had an instant and passionate romance and fell deeply in love. Scott was a healthy, vibrant man, active and smart. Choosing someone healthy was very important to me since Bruce had died young.
Bizarrely, about 3 years after we met, Scott was diagnosed with an extremely rare terminal illness – about one in a million people are diagnosed with this disease. Even though he was doing a good job fighting the disease, in 2020 he suffered a stroke and went into kidney failure. Scott died on Halloween 2021, after a fall, possibly caused by a seizure.
I lost two life partners before the age of 55 and it took a toll on me. While my friends celebrate their 20th+ wedding anniversaries, I am single again.
What did I do to deserve this? While Bruce had been a sick man all his life, Scott was completely healthy with no lurking diseases when I met him. That led to my next question: is there something unique about me? My experience of losing two partners so young is extremely rare. I have been seeking an answer to this question for multiple years.
In my previous story “Will AI replace your spiritual advisor? Who wins, Astrologers or Chatgpt?” I alluded to an astrological observation made by a friend. Around 2012, after Bruce died, my friend took a look at my astrology chart and noticed that my chart indicated I would lose not one, but two life partners! She chose not to tell me this at that time, because it was upsetting and might not come true. About 12 years later, in July 2024, 2-1/2 years after Scott died, my friend told me about this disturbing pattern in my astrological chart. Here is a story that helped me heal:
The Story: It was inevitable that I would have two wonderful life partners and both would die young.
The Takeaway: As these deaths are behind me and there is no forecast of additional unexpected deaths to come, I can safely move forward and open my heart again, without fear that my next relationship will end far too soon.
Is this true? Honestly I don’t know. I am a practical person, and while I don’t always believe in star charts and their interpretations, I do understand the value of a story and its healing power. It gives my heart and brain a reason – an explanation – of why certain things happened to me. It creates the space to believe that what happened before is not necessarily going to happen again, and for me, this is a very healing thought.
I see this all the time in my hypnosis practice. When we are able to identify a story about why someone is experiencing what they are experiencing, it is much, much easier to let it go. I love being able to help people discover their stories and heal.
I’m so thankful to my friend for giving me this story. I understand completely why she waited until now to share it with me. I deeply appreciate it, and now feel ready and free to be open to love.
Do you have a healing story? I would love to hear it. DM me and let’s chat.
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